A Day in My Life as Director of PEGS

People often ask me what a typical day looks like as Director of PEGS…

Truthfully, there isn’t one.

Every single day is different, and I think that reflects the reality of the work we do around Child to Parent Abuse. No two families are the same, no two situations are the same, and because of that, no two days ever really look alike either.

Some days I’m delivering training.
Some days I’m sitting in meetings with government departments or local authorities.
Other days I’m writing reports, applying for funding, attending Domestic Abuse Related Death Reviews, speaking at conferences, or supporting our team behind the scenes.

And sometimes, in the middle of all of that, I’m making a quick brew and joining the daily online pop in to check on the team because staying connected to the people around me matters.

Although I’m a Director, I’ve never wanted to be someone who sat away from the day-to-day reality of the organisation. I’m very hands-on and always will be.

A huge part of my role is training and consultancy work. I work with organisations, local authorities, schools, safeguarding teams, and other services across the UK to help them better understand Child to Parent Abuse and harmful behaviours.

That often includes helping areas create and implement CPA-specific policies, frameworks, and pathways because many systems still aren’t designed with these families in mind.

There’s still such a long way to go nationally when it comes to understanding CPA properly, so a lot of the work involves helping professionals move away from blame and towards trauma-informed, supportive responses.

When I am able to, I will also  deliver workshops directly to parents and parental figures myself because staying connected to lived experience is incredibly important to me.

No report, framework, or strategy is more valuable than listening to families directly.

Alongside that, I occasionally facilitate our daily practitioner-led sessions, these are sessions that parents can access for support, guidance, and connection. Those sessions matter hugely because isolation is something so many parents affected by CPA experience.

Sometimes parents just need a safe space where they don’t feel judged.

A lot of my work also involves attending domestic abuse forums around the UK, contributing to safeguarding discussions, and taking part in DARDRs Domestic Abuse Related Death Reviews.

Those spaces can be incredibly difficult emotionally, but they are important. If we’re serious about improving outcomes for families, we have to be willing to have uncomfortable conversations and learn from where systems have failed.

There’s also the behind-the-scenes side people don’t always see:
The funding applications, board meetings, staff support, supervision, planning, policy updates, survey development, analysing parent feedback, and turning lived experiences into reports that can actually influence change.

The parent-led surveys we create are especially important to me because families deserve to have their voices heard properly, not just spoken about by professionals, but listened to directly.

I’m also very involved in our Armed Forces project, which is something I’m incredibly passionate about. Military families can face unique pressures and barriers when trying to access support around CPA, so ensuring they feel understood and supported is vital.

Then there’s the media side of the work.

At times I’ll be interviewed, asked to contribute to documentaries or articles, or advise on TV storylines where Child to Parent Abuse is being highlighted. Representation matters more than people realise. When CPA is shown inaccurately, it can increase stigma and shame for families already struggling to ask for help.

When it’s done well, it can open doors to understanding.

The reality is, this role is demanding.
It can be emotionally heavy.
The days are long and the work doesn’t really stop.

But I genuinely believe in what we’re building at PEG Support.

Every training session, every parent workshop, every meeting, every report, and every conversation is part of something bigger.

Families impacted by Child to Parent Abuse deserve support without judgement, and they deserve services that truly understand the complexity of what they’re living through.

That’s what continues to drive me every single day.